(Heartful Writings – Part 4)
There is a quiet shift that happens after you stop trying to change yourself and start learning to trust your own presence.
Not as a goal.
Not as a project.
But as a home — a place where you can return to again and again, without fear, without explanation.
The Moment I Realized I Didn’t Need to Be Saved
For so long, I looked outward for safety — for someone to understand, to hold, to see me. But slowly, I began to feel something else:
A quiet knowing that
I could hold space for myself.
Not perfectly.
Not always.
But enough to begin again.
Being With Myself Became Being For Myself
I stopped asking:
“What’s wrong with me?”
and started asking:
“What does this part of me need?”
I softened toward the scared parts. I stood with the weary parts. I listened to the parts that had long been ignored.
And I whispered:
“You don’t need to earn rest. You already belong.”
Not Fixing — Befriending
I used to think growth meant remodeling myself. Now I see it as befriending myself.
I became less about becoming someone new and more about becoming someone safe to return to.
Because if I can sit with my sadness without fleeing, stand with my fears without shrinking, breathe with my doubts without scolding…
Then I am no longer my enemy.
I am my witness.
My companion.
My safe place.
What Softness Has Taught Me
Softness is not weakness.
It is resistance to harshness.
It is choosing patience over punishment, compassion over correction, presence over pressure.
It is realizing that healing isn’t a sprint —
it’s a slow return
to the self you’ve been carrying all along.
📬 If this writing met you in a place that needed warmth, stay a while. Subscribe. Breathe. Rest here. You’re home.
💭 Reflection for You:
What would it feel like to stop fixing and start befriending yourself?
What part of you is ready to stop being judged — and start being understood?
Write to that part.
Sit with it.
Let it feel safe.
Because once you are your own safe place… you stop abandoning yourself.
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